Finding the right therapist for me

Entering therapy can be a transformative journey toward self-discovery and healing. However, finding the right therapist is crucial for a successful therapeutic experience. It can often be tricky to navigate finding the right therapist. With numerous options available, it can be overwhelming to know where to start. This guide aims to provide a structured approach to help you navigate the process and find a therapist who suits your individual needs. Just because one therapist worked for someone, does not mean they will be the best fit for you. It can be an overwhelming process but we are here to help. Here are some tips to help you find the right fit for you!

1. Understand Your Needs and Goals:

Begin by reflecting on what you hope to achieve through therapy. Are you seeking support for specific issues like anxiety, depression, or relationship problems? Identifying your goals can guide your search for the right therapist. Consider your preferences regarding the therapist’s gender, age, cultural background, and therapeutic approach. This can even be considering whether in-person therapy vs online therapy works best for you. Feeling comfortable and understood by your therapist is essential for building trust and rapport. Ultimately, you and your therapist should be a match and someone who fits the criteria you outlined. 

2. Research Different Therapists and Modalities:

Explore different therapy modalities such as cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT), psychodynamic therapy, EMDR, DBT, or mindfulness-based approaches. Each modality offers unique techniques and perspectives, so it’s essential to find one that resonates with you. Some might involve more “homework”; or outside time spent practicing the skills learned. Some may be better suited to help support you with the main reason for going to therapy. Utilize online resources, therapist directories, and recommendations from friends or healthcare professionals to create a list of potential therapists in your area. You do not need to know what therapy is the best fit for your concerns, but rather, being informed about the options can help you narrow down your choices.

3. Assess Therapist Credentials and Experience:

Verify that the therapists on your list are licensed professionals with appropriate credentials from reputable institutions. Inquire about their training, certifications, and years of experience practicing therapy. You should also check with your insurance provider about what types of therapists are covered by any extended health insurance you may have through work. Look for therapists who have expertise in treating issues similar to yours. For example, if you’re struggling with symptoms of unresolved trauma, seek out therapists who specialize in trauma-focused therapy. Or if you are dealing with co-existing things such as trauma and addiction - find a therapist who is trained in both (they exist)! This can be a crucial step to getting the support you need. 

4. Reach Out and Ask Questions:

Contact potential therapists to schedule initial consultations or phone interviews (Brookhaven offers free 15 minute meet and greets with each therapist!). This is an opportunity to ask questions about their approach to therapy, treatment philosophy, and availability. Inquire about logistics such as session length, frequency, fees, and insurance coverage. Clarify any concerns you have about confidentiality, boundaries, or the therapeutic process. This can also help you feel more excited and comfortable starting this therapeutic relationship, helping you feel more ready to get the support you deserve. 

5. Trust Your Instincts and Gut Feelings:

Pay attention to how you feel during your interactions with each therapist. Trust your instincts and intuition to gauge whether you feel comfortable, understood, and respected. Remember that the therapeutic relationship is a collaborative partnership, and it’s essential to find a therapist to whom you feel genuinely connected and supported.

6. Schedule a Trial Session or Initial Consultation:

Many therapists offer an initial session or consultation to assess compatibility and discuss treatment goals. Take advantage of these opportunities to experience firsthand how the therapist works and whether it aligns with your needs. Use this session to discuss your concerns, ask questions, and assess the therapist’s communication style, empathy, and expertise.

Finally, be okay if the person you first meet is not the right fit for you - this is okay (and normal)! The road to support can oftentimes feel overwhelming but eventually, you will find the right fit for you and it will all be worth it in the end. 

How Can Brookhaven Psychotherapy Help

Finding the right therapist is a significant step towards prioritizing your mental health and well- being. By understanding your needs, researching different therapists, and trusting your instincts, you can embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing with a therapist who supports and empowers you. Remember that therapy is a personal process, and it’s okay to take your time finding the right fit. Trust in the process, and don’t hesitate to seek support along the way.

At Brookhaven Psychotherapy, we offer matching support with our intake coordinator. Give us a call, and we will listen to your concerns, and come up with a plan for you to meet with a therapist who we believe will be a great match. We have a team of highly specialized therapists who will be more than happy to discuss options with you. Check out our website for areas we specialize in and contact us today to book an appointment. We would love to hear from you!